Open Arms supports partners and ex-partners* of those who have served at least one day with the Australian Defence Force.

Support for you as an individual 

Open Arms can help you develop practical skills to support your own mental health and wellbeing.

Our services are free and confidential and can be provided independently, or include your partner.

Open Arms is also here in the unfortunate event that your partner is  injured or has died.

Enhancing relationships and communication 

Open Arms counselling and group programs to help you build positive relationships. Open Arms may assist to strengthen relationships at different times like:

  • Being separated through deployment 
  • Readjusting when your partner returns home, and
  • Transitioning to civilian life. 

Helping someone you care for

As a partner or ex-partner, you are often in the best position to notice changes in behaviour, you may notice:

  • Difficulty adjusting to the normal tempo of life in Australia
  • Challenges in transitioning to civilian life after leaving the ADF
  • Anger control issues
  • Depression and anxiety
  • Substance and alcohol misuse
  • Past trauma and PTSD.

If you are worried about a partner or friend, having a strategy to talk through the situation with them may help. Visit helping a loved one.

For support, call Open Arms on 1800 011 046.

*Open Arms will support ex-partners while co-parenting a child under 18 years of age with someone who has served, or for five years after the relationship has ended. 

Resources you may also be interested in

This booklet is for the partners of serving, transitioning, or ex-serving members of the ADF who have been affected by trauma.

Building better relationships can help you rediscover what's important in your relationship, and rebuild a relationship with your partner.

The Residential lifestyle management program is designed for veterans and their partners who want to improve their wellbeing and enhance their relationship

Posttraumatic stress is more prevalent among the veteran community than the general population. The more you know about posttraumatic stress, the easier it is to live a more normal life with someone who has PTSD.

Deployment affects everyone differently. As the family member of a veteran, you're in the best position to notice subtle behavioural changes that may indicate bigger issues.